There’s a trans kid in my daughter’s eighth-grade class; a kid who just came out from female to male. Said kid was instantly shunned by the majority of his classmates and started getting bullied by “the jocks.” But my daughter and a few of her friends who call themselves “the weirdos” ganged up and went to the bullies and said, hey, if you keep that up we’re gonna go talk to the teachers about it. So the jocks quit bullying the trans kid and my daughter invited him to sit at their lunch table and now he’s happily one of them.
Easy to empathize. I got bullied in junior high school–both by other kids and by one particular teacher–and it instilled in me me a strong streak of “I’m gonna set everything up so that nobody can ever tell me what to do again.” Which with my finance background naturally led to FI/RE. There were many reasons, of course, but that was a strong one.
But I was terribly mistaken to rely on it for motivation.
I feel compelled to repeat some advice. Since retiring I’ve come to believe that FIRE shouldn’t be a glorified geographical cure. It shouldn’t be motion away from something negative, but towards something positive.
And so: if your FIRE motivation arises mainly from negativity, I encourage you to do some hard thinking about what’s making you discontented/unhappy and to speak with a therapist about it. There’s a good chance you can find happiness in your present circumstances rather than after a hoped-for dramatic life change. Again, you’ll take your problems with you wherever you go.
Wish I’d understood that way back when. Could’ve saved a lot of angst.